Maybe your ego is bursting at the seams and you can’t show yourself for who you really are. Perhaps you have no boundaries and you pour yourself into others–their problems, their pressures, their pleasures–at the expense of yourself and your own family. You might think you need to be perfect but are acutely aware that you’re not good enough. Could it be that deep-down you feel inadequate, incapable, and like a fraud?
That’s the imposter syndrome, and it almost ruined Mike Kitko’s life.
You don’t have to live like that. The Imposter in Charge is the vulnerable and raw account of Mike Kitko’s journey from being an overweight, overstressed, overachieving alcoholic business executive who was on the brink of divorce, to a life of authenticity, courage, confidence, and clarity. This transparent account offers a then-to-now experience, as well as practical applications and practices to help you break out of the imposter syndrome yourself–once and for all.
Marine veteran and executive business leader, Mike Kitko lived with the imposter syndrome for years, a result of his childhood trauma. He now helps other executive business leaders avoid fatal collapse in their personal and professional lives.
About the Author:
I have saluted a sitting President while a member of a Marine Honor Guard, was ranked the #1 Non-Commissioned Officer in my Marine unit, held powerful executive positions in Fortune 500 companies, and was viewed as a high-potential leader in almost every organization for which I worked.
I also battled self-worth, self-respect, and self-esteem issues my entire life.
I felt like an imposter.
I had everything material I ever dreamed of, but I was suicidal. I wouldn’t seek support because I was scared to let anyone know I didn’t have it all figured out.
I was supposed to be a powerful leader, right?
The truth was I was an alcoholic, 300lbs of undisciplined chaos, and an abusive husband and father. I was in so much pain inside and I didn’t want anyone to know, so I punished those around me to try to feel powerful. Hurt people hurt people.
I was fired from two significant executive positions in twenty months because I kept hoping that everything would work itself out. I reached the breaking point.
When it didn’t work itself out, I had to learn how to live in order to create internal power, when I’d only sought external power before.
I started from scratch by hiring a coach. I shared all of my pain, fears, doubts, and concerns, and we began separating all of the mental and emotional noise from reality.
We implemented basic elements of physical, mental, and emotional health in my life. I read over 250 books in two years.
Over time, I discovered the power within that was there all along but lay dormant while I accumulated external rewards. I had formed an identity based on what people could see, not based on who I really am.
I found the power inside that I always thought was outside.